The L-word

What is love?

 

My Dad: You'll  just know

My Mom: Love is God and God is love.

One of my best friends, Niecey: Love is God and God is love.

I asked these three people what was love and these are the answers I got. I ask this question because I want to know if I am capable of loving someone and if I have ever loved someone before.  When I say have I loved someone before I mean in a relationship with someone. I know I love my family and friends and will do anything for them but am I to carry that same love into a relationship with a boyfriend?

 

This subject has been on my mind for a while. I think it all started when I stopped talking to this guy named C-Mac (Not his real name but yeah you get the point). We had been talking for about 3 months and we clicked. About a couple weeks in he told me that he loved me and that he loved the person I was and by the time we had gotten to the 3 month point he had fallen in love with me. At first I went along with it like, " Okay, cool." and after awhile I told him that I was falling in love with him. Which was true but I was really falling in love with the potential him(I figured out a couple days ago). I knew that given the right opportunity and the right things he could do and be someone great. By the time we had gotten to the point where I felt like I could not handle his current circumstances and I felt like I was no help to him I had fully said the three magic words "I LOVE YOU".  I still ended it but I truly wondered did I really love him?

My mom and my friend Niecey says that "Love is God and God is Love" but what does that really mean? Am I suppose to love people or someone and allow them to come and go as they please and always take them back, forgive them for everything they have ever done to me, love despite the fact they may not love me, continually give them things but they never say a simple thank you.  Most people would say you have to use common sense and not allow those things to happen but that's how God loves us.  I just dont know if I should take it literally or what. My dad say I'll just know but I have a big heart and care for people like no other. Even if we don't talk for awhile you need something I'll try my damnedest to help you. So how do I know the difference between me truly caring for that person or loving that person?

So I ask you, What is love? How do you know your in love?